Summer seems to be the time of year when the number of dates we go on increases exponentially.. something in the air? i reckon xmas bonuses boost the male ego & hence they have confidence to ask us out! im not implying that the male pays for first dates, or for those thereafter..

Quite frankly i am so over dinners for first dates.. not only do i find it intimidating because he is like in your face for a whole hour or two.. i cant help but analyse nitty gritty information like the way he constructs his sentences & responds to my thoughts! lolll

any ideas for first dates?? the girls reckon the zoo.. i prefer go karting :)

& the next conundrum is i guess, as the girl how to suggest a divergence from dinner for the first date.. you know, i dont think arranged marriages are so bad because it requires absolutely no effort & if u have half a brain u could make it work lollll

lol helen sometimes i think arranged marriages (so long as you mom and dad have decent taste is dudes) would make life a LOT easier.
fun first dates: ice skating (the bf and i did this for our 2 year anniversary- too funny!), theme parks, the beach, go karting, rafting (or anything else adrenaline pumping), movies-followed-by-coffee (cuz then you can talk about the movie)paintball fights (or laser if u bruise :P) latin dance class (i know a friend who did this and said it was the most fun first date ever), cooking class, wine tasting, the museum (or art gallery- bf took me there once, i loved it, he was bored, apparently he is gonna take me to europe so i can "see the really good stuff") and the absolute ultimate fun: if you can find a carnival to go to together- cheesy rides and winning big stuffed animals :)

how to suggest a divergence? just say it!

Post Last Updated:23.11.2007 at 17.44

Yikes..dinner on the first date...thats to full on.
there needs to be a build up to dinner first..to see if ur able to get thru it without killing eachother. First date should be anything but dinner..like nothing more than a drink or Lunch, or a fun activity. ALl better ways to get to know eachother first.

ok go carting, bowling, chocolate tour [ you know those walks they take you around the city and u get to taste stuff, it works with wine tooo, i prefer chocolate] rollerblading, ice skating, dance class yep thats all from me for now

chocolate tasting!!!! i like that one! but oo my goodness then id like fall for him on the first date lollll

but its good reassurance that there are ppl out there who think dinner is just too conventional for a first date & other activities are not 'trying too hard' for first date..

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Post Last Updated:11.02.2008 at 16.53

u gotta be different now on the first date. do sumthing wierd but fun. not typical first date stuff. movies have been done to death as is coffee.... but coffee and catchup is a good fall back if your stumped for ideas.

I recently took a girl out on a first date and when i asked where she wanted to go she said she wanted to go sumwhere that i really enjoy and where i feel at home so i took her for about an hours drive (from town) to the middle of no where in the hills (this was at like 10pm) to a little break in the trees that overlooks the whole of adelaide. its my little heaven and my escape from stress. Was funky and we just chatted about pooall for like 2 hours on the bonnet of my car. time flew past and didnt even realise it was midnight.

Yeah I find if you go for dinner on the first date well you have set the standard quite high, not that its a bad thing but they will expect that and more next time round.

Also dont do dutch, to be honest if its a first date I would pay for dinner, not to show I had a money or anything like that, its more a show of manners and regard for the other person but then ...you get the arguement should you pay if she asked you to come along ...?? its a weird world out there these days

Browny ...yours was a classic, I think women should do that more often, if your in a place were you enjoy the atmosphere there your more then likely going to be yourself rather then trying to be something your not, definitly a smart girl.