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i was in love with my best friends best friend who also became my family friend ( a very close one at that )lol and i was really young but i really did love him, it eventually ended up that i broke of ties with my best friend and remained friends with this guy, it really hurt to see him with other girls but i was the "good friend" so i put up with it all, one drunk night involved a kiss which was then quickly forgotten but just raised my hopess further, end of last year i got a serious boyfriend who was actually my best friend of a year which is quite ironic because he shared the same name as the first best guy friend.. anyway.. we became really close and i realised i was actually over the other guy, it was the biggest relief i cant even say how much weight was lifted off my shoulders, anyway that guy and i are still friends and we were talking recently, and he goes to me " karina, i used to have the biggest crush on u when we were younger, u dont even understand" i actually felt like kicking him in the head, lol i was so angry, wen i broke up with my best friend [whos still my best friend] this guy asked me out, and i said no with such great pleasure lol.... moral of the story, if u like someone LET THEM KNOW!

I dont no if mine is Love-Love.. Or friendship Love. But i cant seem to forget him even though hes said he doesnt want to be friends anymore. We started off as friends.. then became the bestest of friends you could EVER imagen.. then one night we got drunk and did some stupid stuff!! Now he wont talk to me anymore.. and i miss him.. i feel sick when i see him with other people.. i really really miss him.. xoXXXox

Awww *hugs* Chanelle
I guess the question is though, what do you really want and what would you be willing to settle for with him? And how discordant is what he wants with what you do?

Hope it works out

Gosh, kaz i don't think i would be able to just let a guy know that i like them, hey. i wish i had the guts to do that.

hey chanelle. plz don't take offense but that guy is rather childish if you ask me. you can't just stop talking to your best friend no matter what transpired.

jaci, ever tried a career in pschology? lol. good point tho.

i thought i was in love when i was younger. he ended up a lying cheat and then dumped me! everyone had been tellin me he wasn't right but it was as it i was blinded by love and i just wouldn't listen! i was soooooo mad when he finished me! i used to want my revenge and do nasty things to him for amusement. i think back to then and it seems so crazy now because i've found someone new and he's the best thing that ever happened to me! we live together and we're engaged...

no matter how bad it seems at the time, how much it hurts, how much you want it all to end, you will get through, life will go on, and at some point you will look back on it and think "wow, i was such an idiot". trust me. i jsut found out my ex is working as a "mobile personal trainer" (lol) has been with a girl who looks exactly like me for the last 3 years, has pretty much not moved forward in life at all in the 3 years since we broke up (at that time i thought i would never get past it, never move on, life was over) and i've finished my degree, moved on, bought a house, have a great lifestyle and am 100% happy without him :) oh and it also helps that i have more money now cuz i am no longer paying his RENT!

chanelle, its always difficult with close friends as you dont know where the boundaries are, and once you cross them its very difficult to go back. the fact that he wont talk to you means he is confused. it means he does not know if he wants to go down that track with you, or that he does not want to go down that track with you enough to actually do it. i guess the point is, don't waste your time sitting around waiting for it to happen, you deserve better, if he cannot appreciate you for the amazing woman you are, then there is no point in sitting around missing him. he is obviously an idiot and you need to move on.

it's a interesting question really. I carn't remember how long it took to "get over" but think the ones you fall for you always remember (sometimes it goes in the same convo as people to kill/seek revenge on lol)

About 6 months... I was 17 and he was my first serious b/f, I was devestated! I met other guys but still had a soft spot for him for maybe 12 months even though I would never have gone back to him I valued him as a close friend, we just were not meant to be.

I guess my most recent ex is the only man I've really loved, and it's been over a year and I still think about him everyday..huh