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First love.... how long did it take you to get over him/her?
Wow some interesting stories there...
Well... Personally, I think that once you fall in love, it changes you in some deep way forever and you'll have to live with them always being a part of you, whether your paths continue together or end.
Love definitely changes who we are and how we view the world. We move on from the terrible pain of having to let go of the special person that made us feel complete, and move towards a greater understanding of how things happen for a reason.
And perhaps that reason is that love is a journey in itself, a journey in which only our hearts can guide us, and no matter how hard we try, we simply have no control over where it takes us!
And that, is the beauty of love.
Well... Personally, I think that once you fall in love, it changes you in some deep way forever and you'll have to live with them always being a part of you, whether your paths continue together or end.
Love definitely changes who we are and how we view the world. We move on from the terrible pain of having to let go of the special person that made us feel complete, and move towards a greater understanding of how things happen for a reason.
And perhaps that reason is that love is a journey in itself, a journey in which only our hearts can guide us, and no matter how hard we try, we simply have no control over where it takes us!
And that, is the beauty of love.
funnily enough, my last bf (around 3 years) took about a week to get over. I spent 2 days crying and miserable, and then 5 realising why he was no good for me. The next week i was fine, and while he started wanting to get back together (and calling me up everyday asking me to marry him) all i felt was pity for him- nothing more.
my top break-up tips:
1) let yourself have a few days to have a really big cry, the first few are the hardest so surround yourself with people who love you, dvd's and icecream and let it alllll out
2) DONT SEE THEM OR TALK TO THEM. If they call, say hi, act calm and get off the phone as soon as possible. if they leave a voicemail, listen to it once and then delete it.
3)after your allocated crying time, fill up your social schedule. I know you dont want to go out, but you have to. go for coffee's and dinners and dancing, make sure you have no free time to cry... oh, but don't hook up with anybody, it will just be a rebound. Don't drink too much either...
4)allocate a shopping budget and go crazy (i think i spent $5000 after my last break-up...not good for the bank balance but you do feel awesome in new clothes- even a couple of hundred for those jeans that make ur bum look great will completely change your attitude when u wear them)make sure you wear this stuff- it will boost your confidence.
5) think about why it didn't work. as much as you want it back, the break-up happened for a reason- don't beat yourself up though. This is a great time to reflect not only on the relationship, but on yourself as well. Think about what you have learnt and how you've grown.
6) keep the happy memories. love happens for a reason. it teaches us a lot about ourselves and about finding beauty in others. often its not enough to make a relationship work but it is a beautiful thing that brings people together- be happy it happened and remember the good times.
my top break-up tips:
1) let yourself have a few days to have a really big cry, the first few are the hardest so surround yourself with people who love you, dvd's and icecream and let it alllll out
2) DONT SEE THEM OR TALK TO THEM. If they call, say hi, act calm and get off the phone as soon as possible. if they leave a voicemail, listen to it once and then delete it.
3)after your allocated crying time, fill up your social schedule. I know you dont want to go out, but you have to. go for coffee's and dinners and dancing, make sure you have no free time to cry... oh, but don't hook up with anybody, it will just be a rebound. Don't drink too much either...
4)allocate a shopping budget and go crazy (i think i spent $5000 after my last break-up...not good for the bank balance but you do feel awesome in new clothes- even a couple of hundred for those jeans that make ur bum look great will completely change your attitude when u wear them)make sure you wear this stuff- it will boost your confidence.
5) think about why it didn't work. as much as you want it back, the break-up happened for a reason- don't beat yourself up though. This is a great time to reflect not only on the relationship, but on yourself as well. Think about what you have learnt and how you've grown.
6) keep the happy memories. love happens for a reason. it teaches us a lot about ourselves and about finding beauty in others. often its not enough to make a relationship work but it is a beautiful thing that brings people together- be happy it happened and remember the good times.
wow ruru, that's all really good advice.
i'm kinda stuck i broke up with my bf of 3 years about 7 months ago... but i'm not over him and i think that part of the problem is that i still see him, alot and i cant seem to cut him out completely. should i cut him off completely? do you think it will help?
i'm kinda stuck i broke up with my bf of 3 years about 7 months ago... but i'm not over him and i think that part of the problem is that i still see him, alot and i cant seem to cut him out completely. should i cut him off completely? do you think it will help?
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