The oldest choice to make and yet its still never an easy one.

I have the opportunity to work in Banff Canada doing a job i have alwasys dreamed of doing in a place i have wanted to go my whole life. The job is an events manager and Host for a very nice hotel group in canada and i would be based in Banff. Now heres me jumping up and down at the fact i got a job like this in such a beautiful place in the world....... yet now im in a spot.

A girl i have been very close with and have liked for many many years is moving back to adelaide (currently lives interstate). She has said quite bluntly that we should be together and theres me again doing the happy dance. Yet she gets back in January and i leave in late january....... Insert prediciment here.

Tis a tad early to ask her to pack up and move with me (1 month relationship then move... hmmm time bomb there). Do i say goodbye to her and go for my job or say no to the job and be with the girl????

Opinions..... needed!!!

cheers

Honestly, I'd go the job over the girl.

Go for the job over the girl darling. For SURE. Are you sure you want to sacrifice this dream job for a (likely) bitter start to a relationship with a girl you probably barely know now after all these years, in the town you've always lived in??!

People walk in and out of our lives all the time, do things for yourself and not for anyone else. Unless she makes you jump up and down like Banff does, say goodbye and hello Banff (YAY! Congrats to you!)

P.s. And when she comes in January, i would not even spend alot of time with her... why make things harder for yourself? Under the time-limited circumstances, relationships are always 10 times more intense and exciting so spare yourself that agony once you make a decision ;) ... you also don't have to take my advice though!

Logically I agree with Julz and Daniel - go for the job. But although what Julz says about people walking in and out of your life all the time, and the odds of any relationship really succeeding after what you'd be giving up, I'm thinking more from the perspective that the relationship could still happen another time, another way... the job offer may never happen again. You could stay in touch with her and just see what happens. You may end up hating the job and coming back, or she may follow you.

I suppose when it comes down to it though, it's whichever you feel strongest about :)

Job

Job.

If the relationship is serious and has depth to it, then each individual would encourage the other to pursue their own goals and dreams and support them the best that they can. If you've known her and been close with for years, then having a good, honest talk about the situation and each individual's feelings wouldn't be a huge issue and help the situation.

I understand how you feel and feel your torn feelings about the job or the girl as I was in a similar situation. With me, after much deliberation I changed my target overseas destination, not mainly to be with her, but also I found that the different location would provide better opportunities for me to grow in my career and as a person.

Things work out if both are willing to put in the effort. Long distance sucks, I've seen a lot of people around me go through it and I really admire them for that. Personally, I've never experienced it before and I don't plan on going through it...but from what friends and family have told me, it takes a lot of committment and effort from both sides.

Being with her, may not be a one time deal, who knows what may happen in the future :) A prospective employer isn't going to look at your CV and say, oh you gave up a job you were after for a girl...welcome aboard. However, a girl may admire you for pursuing your own dreams and goals as it would show that you're confident about yourself to go for what you want.

Hope that helps mate and best of luck.

Post by Wayne

A prospective employer isn't going to look at your CV and say, oh you gave up a job you were after for a girl...welcome aboard. However, a girl may admire you for pursuing your own dreams and goals as it would show that you're confident about yourself to go for what you want.

ohhh thats a good point... a seriously good point. Yeah ive sorta figured that this job is a once in a lifetime thing maybe and i gotta grab it with both hands. And going by my past history the r/ship wouldn't last 3 months and then id be freeken pooted off about it all.

Plus ya never know where u might find the "right one". She might be in canada ya never know. Plus the new job and new location might be a needed change for me. Sorta in a rut atm with adelaide.

cheers for the opinions

Oh my Browny, I thought this would have been a no brainer for you.

One questions though, where has she been this whole time? Off doing what is best for her?? So you've 'liked' her for a few years now...

If it hasn't eventuated by now then it's time to do what is best for you!!


I have the opportunity to work in Banff Canada doing a job i have alwasys dreamed of doing in a place i have wanted to go my whole life. says it all Browny! Opportunities like that don't come around every life time. Regret doing it then regret not doing it. Don't ever look to the past to create the future!

Xv

Daniel, you seem like such a sweet guy, but you need to take this job! If she is as crazy about you as you about her, things will eventually pan out for you guys! Go for the JOB!

/Anna

www.davidtishbi.com

i am in an incredibly similar situation... except I've been with the guy for 3years.

he always knew that i wanted to move so that i could pursue my dream (I've wanted to do this since i was 14) but he hates the city i want to move to so i stayed here for him. but now my best friend is doing what I've dreamed of and i feel like if i don't go soon i never will and I'll wake up years from now and regret it... so i talked to my partner about it, and he thinks i should go... but it means we would be splitting up.

it's such a hard decision to make :(