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Please tell me your secret to keeping a relationship
Over the past few years and the past 12 months especially, I have found it so hard to keep a relationship simply due to the fact my gfs cant handle me being a model. I mostly work as a promotional model at clubs around adelaide and the gfs really dont enjoy me working. If people have done promotional work you would know that basically being a flirt sells the products. Sex does sell so being sexy, being a flirt really does sell the product your promoting. It really is part of the job yet its just that... a job. I would never follow through with the flirting because im working, im not out ot pick up etc.
Ive had 3 unsuccessful relationships in the past 12 months over the fact of my gfs dont enjoy me working in promotions and infact the last gf requested i quit my promotional modelling job. I would never quit because a gf told me to but there has to be a way to keep the job and have a successful relationship. They dont trust me simply because of my work.
Give me (and others i guess) your tips on how.
Ive had 3 unsuccessful relationships in the past 12 months over the fact of my gfs dont enjoy me working in promotions and infact the last gf requested i quit my promotional modelling job. I would never quit because a gf told me to but there has to be a way to keep the job and have a successful relationship. They dont trust me simply because of my work.
Give me (and others i guess) your tips on how.
hmm Have you explained to them thoroughly what your job consists of and that that's the way it all works?
I have a friend thats a professional photographer and his gf would often come up to me asking me if he really is trustworthy because when she sees him working at parties and at functions, apparently it seems as if he's flirting or has just suddenly forgotten about her being there? I tried to explain to her that you need to have that sort of personality in that type of industry/business so that people can be more comfortable and see you as friendly and bubbly or what not... but I dont know, I think she's still a bit suspicious but I guess that's her problem if she trusts him enough or not. That's just the way it is.
But, having said that that's your job and you have to do it... I guess, just explain to that person how it all works and why you have to be friendly or flirty or whatever and that if you really were doing it for kicks, then why would you be with that person?... If that makes any sense at all...
I have a friend thats a professional photographer and his gf would often come up to me asking me if he really is trustworthy because when she sees him working at parties and at functions, apparently it seems as if he's flirting or has just suddenly forgotten about her being there? I tried to explain to her that you need to have that sort of personality in that type of industry/business so that people can be more comfortable and see you as friendly and bubbly or what not... but I dont know, I think she's still a bit suspicious but I guess that's her problem if she trusts him enough or not. That's just the way it is.
But, having said that that's your job and you have to do it... I guess, just explain to that person how it all works and why you have to be friendly or flirty or whatever and that if you really were doing it for kicks, then why would you be with that person?... If that makes any sense at all...
I dont understand the jealous partner thing. My boyfriend was always so supportive of my modelling and performing. He'd carry copies of the shoots I'd done on a little memory card so he could show people at work and things. I always asked for his advice on things and he was always as eager to see the new pictures as I was.
Next time a girl asks you what you do, tell her, and then say something like "It's pretty stupid. Girls flirt with us pretty hard. As if I'd do anything though, it's my job. I'm not there to pick up". Not necessarily those exact words but try and make her feel like its no big deal and the flirting seems dumb to you, that you'd never hit on someone while you are at work.
Next time a girl asks you what you do, tell her, and then say something like "It's pretty stupid. Girls flirt with us pretty hard. As if I'd do anything though, it's my job. I'm not there to pick up". Not necessarily those exact words but try and make her feel like its no big deal and the flirting seems dumb to you, that you'd never hit on someone while you are at work.
Post by Danica
I dont understand the jealous partner thing. My boyfriend was always so supportive of my modelling and performing. He'd carry copies of the shoots I'd done on a little memory card so he could show people at work and things. I always asked for his advice on things and he was always as eager to see the new pictures as I was.
My partner is the same. I did a shoot last year where I had to full on kiss a guy and Brian totally understood it was for a shoot and it was basically just acting. But come to think of it, it must be a girl thing because the model I was kissings girlfriend never stopped texting and seemed a bit insecure. But maybe it's a 2 way thing with me and my partner because he's the lead singer of a band and while I've been pregnant I've not made it to many gigs and I know girls will be going up to him but I also know I can trust him 100% so it works both ways for us!
Post by Danica
I dont understand the jealous partner thing. My boyfriend was always so supportive of my modelling and performing. He'd carry copies of the shoots I'd done on a little memory card so he could show people at work and things. I always asked for his advice on things and he was always as eager to see the new pictures as I was.
My partner is the same. I did a shoot last year where I had to full on kiss a guy and Brian totally understood it was for a shoot and it was basically just acting. But come to think of it, it must be a girl thing because the model I was kissings girlfriend never stopped texting and seemed a bit insecure. But maybe it's a 2 way thing with me and my partner because he's the lead singer of a band and while I've been pregnant I've not made it to many gigs and I know girls will be going up to him but I also know I can trust him 100% so it works both ways for us!
Post by Danica
Next time a girl asks you what you do, tell her, and then say something like "It's pretty stupid. Girls flirt with us pretty hard. As if I'd do anything though, it's my job. I'm not there to pick up". Not necessarily those exact words but try and make her feel like its no big deal and the flirting seems dumb to you, that you'd never hit on someone while you are at work.
That is great advice Danica except if you're single and the girl you're like is at the bar where you're promoting =/ then again my advice on relationship is probably not the best to take =]
I guess the girls just feel seccond best to you! intimidated...maybe they want to be in the same position as you! either they support you and are proud or are uneasy and put off.
but im sure a girl who is perfectly suited to you will come along, a good idea would be to not talk up your job in any way and keep it really subtle..not secretive though!
but im sure a girl who is perfectly suited to you will come along, a good idea would be to not talk up your job in any way and keep it really subtle..not secretive though!
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