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I think many things ruin a relationship but the number one reason is lying. A guy could tell a girl he loves her based upon the content of her vary own heart. He lies his way through and says he wants to "make love to her." She loves this because he doesn't call her hot he calls her beautiful and doesn't say "have sex" however "make love." He lies more and more. Than when they do make love he gets what he wants. With patience, he moves to the next victim.

Yup. I hate guys like this. There is NO excuse for leading a girl on like that.

Sometimes if we believe there is something wrong with out relationships, we ourselves can be the thing that kills it. You look for things that are wrong and use them as excuses or justification to get out of the relationship rather than look beyond the small things and think about what is RIGHT with your relationship and why that makes it worth keeping over all the little things.

I was with my previous partner for 10 years before he passed away - thats a long time and things will always change after that long. But rather than letting those little things get in the way, we focused on why it is we wanted to be together and I honestly feel this is how we lasted all that time. We never argued. Not once. We always talked about everything and even if we disagreed on something we always talked it out rather than get angry or upset with each other.

And it's something I have brought to my new relationship. I always insist that if there is something wrong or something I've done to annoy my partner that they just bloody well tell me and don't sit and stew on it or make it bigger than it should be.

Post by TheRipley

A guy could tell a girl he loves her based upon the content of her vary own heart. He lies his way through and says he wants to "make love to her." She loves this because he doesn't call her hot he calls her beautiful and doesn't say "have sex" however "make love." He lies more and more. Than when they do make love he gets what he wants. With patience, he moves to the next victim.

I've had this happen to me and it's a really horrible thing to realize that someone only used you for sex.

It has already been said but I thing jealousy is a major relationship killer. My ex of 3years and I had problems but the major one was his jealousy of any and every guy I talked to, it just ended up getting so ridiculous that I had to end the relationship.

Omg Amy I'm so sorry. 3 years. Wow. Thats a long time. I love my girlfriend of almost 9 months. I'm sorry. To be honest with you I love my girlfriend for who she is and what I see in her heart and nothing else. I love her for the memories we share and the fun times we have. Sex doesn't matter. I would rather take her to the park on a nice day and have a picnic or sit out under the stars with her.

I was talking about 2 different circumstances... my partner of 3 years did love me, but he was a jealous control freak which is what ruined our relationship.

Yea I know what you mean. I'm sorry about that. Was it the kind of thing when he hated you talking to other guys or worrying that other guys would fall for you?

Both, and the thing that made it very difficult is that I get on with guys better than girls (probably because I grew up with 2 brothers) So I wasn't allowed to have male friends... as much as I loved him I got so sick of feeling like a child that I had to leave him.

I'm sorry. Thats dissapointing that you guys were together so long and it ended. But I know, I would hate to feel caged. Jealousy does ruin relationships. I'm sorry he was like that Amy.

Thanks. yeah, 3 years is a long time, but better 3 years than 5 years, or 10 years...

Yea thats a good way to think of it. Anyway Amy, I hope all goes well for you. Theres someone out there for everyone.