well here i am in my first week of college at texas a&m university and already theres a guy that i'm getting along with quite well. then i slide the word 'boyfriend' into our conversation last night and he's thrown off and doesn't really talk to me tonight. my boyfriend lives in england, i'm here in texas. i don't need another guy... i just would really like this new guy as a friend becuase he's sweet and i don't want the fact that i have a boyfriend to scare him away. is that even possible or am i being crazy? or am i just experiencing college temptation and thinking too much into this? any advice or comment i'll be grateful for...

any of you guys doing the long-distance thing?

Not doing the long-distance thing, but it's very possible that new friend is being sweet simply to get into those tailored pants you're wearing. Maybe I'm cynical, but if he's scared away (or reacting differently) because you've got a boyfriend then he probably has an alterior motive.

I don't like long distance relationships.

And I hate to be cynical like Daniel, but we've had a lot of experiance being guys.

long distance relationships dont work unless youve got about 15 years of marriage with the guy prior to that. and even then, its quite likely that the relatioship will break up.

yeah unless you are calling/videoing ur bf back home every day or close to it from my personal experience it just aint gonna happen :(

long distance relationships are hard. ive tried once, didnt turn out well. its hard to break up but if it impossible, try being friends

Post Last Updated:28.09.2006 at 20.39

i think its possible, but like anything, it will require a bit of effort. it all depends on how much effort you wanna put into a relationship while having your first experiences at college...

If there is an ocean between you, don't bother. Its too hard. I've tried and it just did not work out. Keep it to, "If its meant to be, it will be."

forget about the dude back home... it ain't gonna work if you're already feelin this way... and i was there once... it was only a two hr driving distance, but i couldn't take it, i spent way too much time focused on seeing him and not on my experiences there (i rocked my classes but i never got into any social scenes) and then i ended up transfering a year later to a school closer to him but six years later i rid myself of him. and even though i love the school i transfered to, i feel i caused myself to miss out on a life that could have been better suited for myself... and yay! now i get to go to counceling!
so, in final, your in college, go have as much fun as possible! because towards the end of school, you tend to find your self with no life working your ass off for school, hardly sleeping, and desiring nothing but a few moments to yourself and sleep.
oh and as far as my boy... it was a great six year relationship, but i learned that i just catered way too much to him and what i wanted there to be (hence the transfering to be closer to him), so i ended it... it really sucked, i had to redefine most everything i knew, but it was worth it.

Long distance relationships work for some people and sometimes it doesn't. I know a girl lives in Australia and married a guy in the US and doesn't see him for a whole year...I don't reckon it'll work. But I think long distance relationships work if you're in the same country, but it would depend if the distance is still happening after a year and a half...Better to have one part of the relationship move to be in the same location as the other person. But the key to keeping a long distance relationship is about communicating heaps, and being faithful and committed and not giving into temptations, or giving up on the other person. I think long distance relationships work more when you aren't so young and meeting people so much.
But as for guys at college...The good ones usually don't stay single for long