just a thought, my sisters ex still talks to me- me and my bf were together when they were goin out so he dont really care, and these two were together for ages on and off so i know him pretty well- him and the sister wont talk but the kid talks to me all the time- purely because when they were together we got on great!
I think the main thing stereofly is to be completely honest with your girlfriend about the situation.
the sad fact is that girls cant trust other girls with their boyfriends. some are so kiniving and evil they will go out of their way to hurt you, by stealing your bf, spreading rumors ect. me and my bf give eachother plenty of space, but in a case like that if he was meeting some girls id feel better being there and knowing whats happening. but he is exactly the same, he HATES me being around other guys without him, he thinks they are all trying to get into my pants, and he is terrified that i'll succumb to them, because some can be such sweet talkers. he's realized that i wont fall for that shit though, but he'd still prefer to be around to make sure they arent going to far. if he's there no-one says anything anyway, so that helps. but Iv'e had girls trying to seduce him when ive left the room for 5 minuets!!! so he knows i trust i him, but not other people and he trust me, but not other guys!!
That is definitely a sad FACT *clare* I can't understand these women who don't believe in 'sisterhood'...and even more sad is that they don't seem to have any morals!
I had a girl want to fight me over the fact that I had just caught her with my boy...all I could do is laugh at her because she sincerely felt that insecure within herself to begin with & then thought I'd actually care about 'her' role in the situation. It had nothing to do with her, just myself and the ex.
Stereofly here is a better saying for you to ponder: "What you spend years building, someone can destroy overnight. Build anyway."
xxSoHo Babi
I had a girl want to fight me over the fact that I had just caught her with my boy...all I could do is laugh at her because she sincerely felt that insecure within herself to begin with & then thought I'd actually care about 'her' role in the situation. It had nothing to do with her, just myself and the ex.
Stereofly here is a better saying for you to ponder: "What you spend years building, someone can destroy overnight. Build anyway."
xxSoHo Babi
So what your saying is just trust whatever they say, question nothing and just agree? I suppose ignorance is bliss but people DO cheat, marriages based on 20 years of faithfulness willbreak down and sometimes people just do change. Its about trust yes, but naievity is also a bad thing. i think you need to find a balance and guidelines. I had a lady working with us who managed to proposition every male in the office (including my father!) liek some sort of sex starved crazy slut (i kid you not- she was insane) and personally, while none of them went along with it, if it were my man, id prefer she didnt do it in the first place. The past is the past yes, but the fact is people form your past still exist and often youneed to deal with them again, and ur bf/gf should realise this- unless you were the first relationship they had, they should accept that both of you were with people before and its just a fact of life.
ruru - i won't trust whatever they say.....thing is, there isn't anything to question if you don't know what your partner does in the first place, is what i meant....
that is hilarious about that office sex starved crazy slut you were talking about...
that is hilarious about that office sex starved crazy slut you were talking about...
lol yea she was insane!
what kind of relationship would you have if you knew nothing about what the person you were with was doing? thats jsut being naieve
what kind of relationship would you have if you knew nothing about what the person you were with was doing? thats jsut being naieve
ruru- not knowing what your partner is doing doesn't mean you are being naive.....because you can't afford to question every single thing...it more like if your partner just doesn't tell you stuff when you don't question them.....its more like a case you assume everything is o.k. because you don't know....
by the way, i am not an advocate for that saying, there are certain instances when it is appropriate like, i don't need to know what my gf thinks of a stranger that walks past her...she might think he's hot, etc but i don't need to question her every thought....
i reckon everyone is entitled to have some spacce to their own and if both parties know how well each would think and react and accept it, then its fine.....
by the way, i am not an advocate for that saying, there are certain instances when it is appropriate like, i don't need to know what my gf thinks of a stranger that walks past her...she might think he's hot, etc but i don't need to question her every thought....
i reckon everyone is entitled to have some spacce to their own and if both parties know how well each would think and react and accept it, then its fine.....
hehe yeah there are definately things my bf thinks that i dont want to know about but what you were saying was knowing nothing and thats pretty naive. Assuming everything is ok all the time basically is a lack of communication which can cause you lots of trouble in a relationship, especially if the other party is having a problem and you never even knew!
i think the key is to be realistic, have open communication and not be clingy!
i think the key is to be realistic, have open communication and not be clingy!
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